Every parent will want to educate children as well as possible, but often the rules that they employ to make the children feel constrained and misinterpret the rule. Not infrequently it makes the children become irritable, and end up being bad-tempered child. To be grumpy attitude is not sustainable into adulthood, parents should help children to be free from excessive anger. Consider three ways you can do to make your child does not become a bad-tempered.
1. Open in anger
Since she was a toddler, children are often persuaded to deny feelings of anger. Phrases such as "Do not be angry" gives a message to the toddler that anger is bad and wrong. When in fact anger is not always bad. Curb your anger will make them perform actions that are not good and just rebelled when adults. Compared to forbid children to express anger, it's better if you show empathy when dealing with children's anger. Convey that anger is not really a problem, which is important how to control emotions more effectively.
2. Express with words and writing
Appropriate emotional intelligence, and self-control, can be expressed by placing the feelings in words. You can help children to overcome anger by consistently encouraging them to share what makes them angry. Maybe just by making a list of the most common that can trigger anger. Pour through the words on the list, anything that can make them angry. Then compare between your list and the list of children, to get a common understanding of how to control anger.
3. Ready to accept the anger
The final key to helping children to accept and manage anger well is by being willing to accept the child's anger. As a parent, it must be difficult to be in this position, especially when you feel right. However, when you are willing to accept the child's anger, it will send a strong message that their complaints heard, and their feelings noticed by parents. After the child's anger subsides, you can advise the child gently, so that the children want to listen to parental advice, and regretting its own guilt. It's much better than when you argue and scold children behind when they're emotional. This will send a negative signal to children that their parents do not understand their feelings, or even feel unloved.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
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